tell me if I'm being moronic and need to move on or if perhaps I'm in love.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
This one's a wee bit long. (that's right I said wee bit) I moved to Alabama from Colorado a few years ago. While there I fell for a girl (we'll call her Brittany). She was dating a guy (we'll call him Nick). Now Nick is a complete jerk who had no respect for Brittany what-so-ever. The entire time I've known Brittany I've made it clear that I wanted to move back to Colorado when I graduated. I decided to go to Colorado the day after graduation with my brother. I went to see brittany the night before I left Alabama. She gave my a car that said she loved me and had avoided saying so because she didn't think she deserved me. I already knew that she had low self asteam but she also said that she didn't want me to stay in Alabama just for her (which i would have). We cried, we laughed, and we kissed (for the first and the last time). We talk on the phone often. Now I'm in Colorado and I don't know if I can live another week without seeing her face. It's only been nine days since the last time, but it's so hard. Now there's a girl here in Colorado that loves me that I don't want to dissapoint, but I can't imagine being with anyone but Brittany. I waited for Brittany for two years and now I've let her slip bye. I really don't know what my question is. Just tell me if I'm being moronic and need to move on or if perhaps I'm in love. I'm the kind of guy who believes in one love in life so this is a big deal for me.
I think that as time passes, you'll have a clearer perspective on who you want in your life. It's a wonderful feeling to know that someone loves you and it spins you into this cool in-love tornado. But it will settle down, and when it does, then you can make a decision over what you want to do with your life. You have said that you were willing to stay in Alabama to be with this girl, how about if she moves out to be with you?
Give this time, don't make any sudden or crazy decisions over what you want to do. Even a month will be long enough to get a picture of how you want to live your life.
-- from Marc
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