I'm just friends with my ex, but my gf is upset anyway
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
i have two ex-girlfriends. currently i have a new girlfriend of five months. though i have broken up with my ex, we still keep in touch and she would call me occasionally. but i feel uneasy as my girlfriend always feel upset whenever she heard that my ex have been calling me. how do i assure her that we are just friends and nothing more. i understand the jealousy that she feel. i want to know some of the ways i can do that will assure her that she is the only one i love and that they are just friends.
please help. i love my girlfriend very much and want to be with her forever. i've never met a girl like her before. please help.
It is very common to run into this problem. It's hard for people to accept that an ex- can be a friend, because the fear is that their partner will hook up with the ex- again, and they'll lose the relationship. So be gentle with your girlfriend and reassure her that she is the one you love, that the ex- is an ex- for a reason and those reasons still stand, but that you do still enjoy her friendship. Make certain to never do anything to suggest more, like staying over her house or going out on a drinking binge with her. As your girlfriend sees you are responsible and forthright about the ex-, then she will learn to trust that it will go no further than friendship.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com