He blushes and gives me rides - does he like me?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi, there's a guy in my school that I like and I think he likes me but I'm not sure. He has offered me rides home at anytime, and stops and talks to me when we see each other. He's always smiling at me or staring at me and his face lights up when he sees me. He gets all nervous around me, and blushes. Well I went out on a limb and asked him out for coffee. He said I can't right now, but after school is over, yeah that sounds good. He's busy studying for certifications and projects and such. Well I thought that maybe he didn't want to go out with me since he turned me down at the moment for coffee. Everyone else tells me he's being honest, he's just really busy right now. Well since I asked him out, he came down to my classroom and it's pretty far away from his classroom, just to talk, he never done that before. He came in and stood there smiling at me, and I asked him did you want to talk about something? He said oh, uh, well, uh, no I guess not. He didn't come down to take his lunch to the lunchroom either, because he wasn't carrying his lunch or anything. I said well how are you doing? We carried on a 5 minute conversation, and then he said well I hope you have a good day, I said yeah you too. Then everytime he comes past our classroom door, he looks in and smiles and stares and waves at me or something. The only thing is he doesn't call me, or e-mail me and he has my number and e-mail address. I e-mailed him and he still hasn't e-mailed me back. I can't understand what is going on with him. Does it sound like he likes me or not. He was with 1 girlfriend for 13 years, and she broke up with him for not making enough money, if this matters. Do you think he's just scared of getting hurt again? Or do you think he just doesn't like me at all? I am heavy, but I'm not the ugliest thing that came down the pike, do you think that's what's holding him back?? He doesn't seem the type, but I can't understand why he wouldn't go out for coffee right now with me. I really like this guy and I have no idea how to convey it to him, I mean I would think he would know that I liked him since I asked him out for coffee. Please help me. Thanks so much.
Good god, this guy gives you rides, blushes, goes out of his way to see you and you are wondering if he likes you?? Do you really think he does this with every girl he knows? :) He obviously is spending TONS of time on you and even so you are holding back. Yes you went to coffee with him - that's all, after all the time he has invested deliberately in being with you? Heck, coffee is what even strangers do together. That's barely a start.
It's time for you to start being more proactive in showing him you are interested in HIM too. Love is not a one way street, you can't expect him to do everything ...
-- from Lisa
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