what should I do with my ex girlfriend??
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My question is what should I do with my ex girlfriend? I hope you are ready for my story!!!
I met my girlfriend in a club back in January of 1998. We have been together for 6 years now on and off. I was 16 and she was 17. Now I’m 22 and she’s 23. Well of course like in any other relation ship we’ve had our ups and downs but more downs. In the first two years everything was so good (so I thought). Before we went to her High School prom I had a feeling that she was hiding something from me. (A gut feeling) so when she was getting her hair done, I decided to go through her Journal (I know that was bad and something I shouldn’t of done). She always hid it from me so I knew there was some “dirt” in there I had to read. Come to find out, she wrote in there all the times she saw a different guy, all the times she “ml” (Made Love)...I was heart broken because it was when we were dating. Well I broke up with her but not after her prom. I didn’t tell her anything until the weekend was over cause I didn’t want to ruin it for her being the good guy that I am. We broke up for about 6 months until I took her back again. She promised me that she was sorry and that she wouldn’t do such a thing again. Every thing was all good for about 2 years (At least for what I know). Then one day she told me that she wanted to go on spring break with her girls to Florida. I said fine baby. Go and have fun. Everything at this point was all good. We had a good a relationship going. Come to find out, she met some cop in Miami. It broke my heart again into pieces. We broke up for another year or so. Came back crying to me telling me she was sorry and that I’m the only man in her life that can make her happy….so I took her back again….this was march of this year…since March till yesterday everything was all good. She would hide her phone from me every night I stayed over. I asked her if she was talking to other guys while we were dating and she said no. Some guys call me but I promise baby that I won’t call them back. I said ok. Come to find out, she was talking to that cop from Florida again and this kid vinny that I saw his number on her phone. I stole her phone and call “vinny” from her phone. As soon as he picked up he was hey, “pumpkin”. I hung up and broke up with her once again, Should I take her back? I know I shouldn’t cause I have no trust for her yet I lover this girl with all my heart. What should I do? Do you think she will ever change her ways? Am I wasting my time? Please I need advise?
Would you be surprised if you picked up a snake and it bit you? Would you be surprised if you waved a red cape in front of a bull and it charged?
Why are you suprised when she cheats on you, again?
She will continue to cheat on you each and every time you are together, and you can either deal with it or you can choose to get over her and find someone who will dedicate themselves to you and your happiness. This woman is not able to make that committment to you.
You need to focus on what is best for your life, and this woman obviously isn't the best thing for you. You will continue to love her, breakups are horribly hard. But soon you will find someone else to love as well.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com