She Lied, She Wants a Money Guy
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
My ex and I went out in high school then broke up, the past 2 years we started dating again, but 2 months ago we broke up again. She feels that i wasn't the provider in the relation ship and that she felt like she was the "provider". She recently took up 2 jobs in order for her to pay off her bills, and i asked her if theres a chance for us again. She then tells me that she is busy and has no time for a relationship and that she doesn't want to start another relationship all over again with another person and that she would rather be with me. she says that she maybe wants to be with me after all this and that she still has feelings for me and gets mad when i talk to my female classmates. But the thing is , I found out that from somebody that she went on a date with one of her co workers, but she told me she went out with her family. And also I found a picture and letter that she sent to her friend about her guy friends ex girlfriend.
My question is that, what should i do?..should I confront her with this risking our future relationship or should I just forget about it and continue being her friend in hopes that we will be back together? why did she have to lie? I really love and she loves me too and we always say that to each other...How can i get her back?...
There are all sorts of issues here. She expects the guy to pay all the bills? She lies when she has an issue? This is modern times. If she wants to go back to times when a woman let the guy pay for everything, maybe she wants to go back to women not being able to vote and being beaten all the time, too. And if she's going to lie to you, that's wrong no matter what time period you live in.
I would definitely sit down and have a talk about all of this. If you just let it fester, she is going to keep doing it because she thinks it's a normal part of a relationship. Tell her that you care about her - but that she has to treat you with respect if she wants to be treated with respect in return.
-- from Lisa
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