Should I stay married or go with the love of my life?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hello im 21 years old me and my husband have been married for 11 monthes and together since i was 14 its been 6 years. I really love him but he is the only guy i have ever been with until a month ago I met a guy and have been sleeping with him over and over. The thing is now i have fallen in love with this guy and he is in love with me i really see myself having a life with this guy he has everything a want in a guy and my husband does not. Im afraid of leavingmy husband because i dont want to hurt him, my mother in law and other family members. I dont know what to do. I want to be happy and being with this other guy makes me so happy me and my husband aregue all the time anf fight i really need some adive my mom and wont give up on trying to keep me and my husband together she is awlays saying i cant give up and have to stay with him but she does understand what i go through.
This is a hard question. You've been with your husband almost 2/3rds of your life. That's a long time to be in one relationship, and you were probably swept up into marriage because it was "the thing to do" but now you're realizing there are more fish in the sea and that maybe marrying this guy wasn't the best decision. I think that it's important for you to go to counselling just to see if it's really the best choice to go with this new guy or whether you're just sowing your wild oats so to speak. A counsellor will be able to guide you as to what your best options are. I think that it's a good thing that you are questioning this rather than just heading into divorce court. There is a lot at stake and I wish you the best.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com