Sex at 13
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I have a boyfriend who is 16 and im only 13, he is turning 17, I think, he seems like he likes me alot, he wants to have sex, I will have sex if he wants to, I think, I dont know what to do really, older guys think im about 15-16 so there always hitting on me. My boyfriend and I have NOT had sex yet so im asking for advice. He tells me he loves me and I love him.
This is exactly the danger of dating a guy that is older than you - they are at a different stage than you are. He is ready to be a father - i.e. he is almost an adult and if he had to raise a kid, he would be pretty much done with high school. But you're barely in high school if you even are. It is REALLY really important for a parent to have a high school diploma to take care of the kid properly, to earn a good wage and be able to read to their kid and help them with schoolwork. Believe me, NO birth control is 100% effective. There is always the risk of pregnancy. So please wait a few years until you are more done with school before you start to think about sex. Tons of people wait until they are married for sex, for good reason. If you have sex, you can create a child. That shouldn't happen until you are sure you are financially secure and able to support that child. If your boyfriend can't wait, then he's not the guy for you. Tell him to look at all the guys out there who wait for marriage, and who are happy they did, because it was a sign of their respect.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com