I Don't Like his Friend's Girlfriend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Me and my boyfriend have been datine for six months. Everything was going great with us until recently.
I used to be really good friends with his bestfriend's girl but now that they broke up he has been seeing another chick and i don't like her at all (that is a whole different story), well my boy friend and i are very open with each other and i told him about how i felt about his friends new girl, now it seems like he puts his friends ahead of me now (even this "new girl") and it makes me feel bad. what should i do? I really do love him, but if it is going to be like this everyday i cannot deal with it. Please give me some advice?
Something you're going to find in life is that there will always be people in the extended family you don't get along with. It might be your husband's mother, or your boyfriend's sister, or someone. You can't just make those people go away. If you start forcing your partner to give up friends, that is a really bad sign. Every person needs friends. Your boyfriend has every right to stick by his friend and his friend's decision to date this person.
Get a book on dealing with difficult people. It's not like you have to live with her - you just have to tolerate her. Make it into a game, to see how well you can get along with her. You might find after reading a book or two that you begin to understand why she is the way she is, and at least find a way to get along.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com