I'm Dating One Guy - But Interested in Another
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. I met him in London and moved all the way to Sydney to be with him (he's Australian). We are very different and don't seem to have much in common anymore. Last weekend, we had a big night out and this guy, who's the brother of one of my bf's best mate was there. We'd met before and we get along extremly well. I ended up getting really drunk and telling him how attracted I am to him. He said he felt something between us too, but he couldn't hurt my bf. We did end up kissing later that night when we were even more wasted and i convinced him to stay over at my bf's mates flat where everyone else was staying. We kissed again in the morning. Later on the next day, when we finally got to be alone, he asked what this all meant. Was it just a bit of fun? I said it was. But the problem is, i can't stop thinking about him and how I enjoy his company so much more. What should I do?
Well, you're officially cheating so you really need to get a resolution to this quickly. Your boyfriend won't like a cheating girlfriend - and this new guy won't like the thought that he could be dating a girl capable of cheating either. Sit down and have a serious talk with whatever friends you have in the area and make a decision. Either the guy you're with is worth a second chance which means you devote your attention to him 100% for a block of time to see if it will work ... or he is not, and you tell him that. You can't have it both ways and have it work out.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com