Long Distance Love Issues
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I live in south america & he's a car racer who lives in canada. He knows i'll be going there to live soon. After all, since we met he's the one who kept telling me to take a chance to live there.
He knows i share his passion of motor racing & that's the reason his wife left him . . he was too absorbed in it . .
He did mention that after 11 yrs he's not ready to fall in love again. . no more broken hearts.
Then why does he look forward chatting with me? And slowly opening up to me? Talks to me online, all night, about cars & racing? Teases me about my boyfriends (who i don't have)?
Falling in love and chatting are two completely different things. It's always extremely important for a person to be completely through with a previous relationship before moving on. Otherwise you get caught in rebound. He is being VERY good in telling you that - and if you start this relationship by simply ignoring what he tells you, you are going to be in for a world of trouble.
If you are going to be in Canada anyway, that's fine. If you are willing to work on a friendship with him, then that's fine too. But do NOT pressure him just because you want more. When he's ready, he'll be ready. If you rush him, he's likely to withdraw.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com