Waiting and Waiting for an Already Taken Girl
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
There is this really attractive girl at my school (im 15 and she is 16) and she is already going out with someone and they think that it is permanent. now i am friends with both of them and i asked him what is it in her that he really likes a lot and he just said all these things about looks. i like her becasue of who she is and her crazy and random personality. i think that their relationship will never prosper because he is just in it for the looks.
and now i actually have 2 questions the first requires some info (they have been going out for almost a year and every1 always says that they are so cute together) well do u think that this relationhsip will be permanent or not?
and 2 what can i do to either let her know that he is in it for only what she is on the outside and not on the inside like i would. without making it look like i just want to "snatch" her up so to speak
As much as this guy says he's only in it for the looks, there really has to be a much stronger connection if they've been together for a year. A year is a very long time. Guys say all sorts of silly things when talking to other guys about feelings. They don't think it's cool to admit they have feelings. But if he didn't care about her, she would know it right away. That's a sort of thing that is rather obvious. He must care about her and treat her reasonably well if she has stuck it out for a year and not gone with other options.
It rarely works out well for a person to sit around waiting for a "taken" person to free up and date them. Usually the person waits and waits and waits and just gets loneliner. In the meantime, there are other great girls out there who are also lonely, wishing they had a guy like you. So you might want to accept that this girl is happy, and open your eyes up to the other girls in your neighborhood who are NOT in a long term relationship ...
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com