I was with my girlfriend for almost a year and she broke it me last weekend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I was with my girlfriend for almost a year and she broke ith me last weekend nut I really want to still be with her and she tells me she still loves me. I am 20 and she is 18.
She moved away 6 weeks to go to univeristy which is 6 hours away and see came home 2 and half weeks later for the weekend and then a week and a half after that I travelled up there to spend the weekend. When I left she was upset and crying and wanted me to stay for the next week and half till she was coming home for 3 weeks hoildays but knew I couldn't. Everything was fine! Then like then a week later she told me how she was planning on going out with her friends the night she got home and asked if i wanted to come. I said I might because I had to work the next day and couldn't have a late night and I suggested if I didn't I would come and see her before she went out but she said she would need a sleep after travelling home and going out later. Then that led to an agrumnet coz we couldn't fit into each other plans for a of couple days. Then after a while she said she doesn't know if she wants us to be together coz things have changed and we have different interests and are growing apart. Then she wanted to wait till she got home and we would chat about things then. I was hurt and had to ring her a couple of hours later but she wasn't changing her mind. It was over! I then rung the next night after sending her emails and sms about how I feel without replys and I said I want to work this out. Then she told me they was another reason she 'liked someone else' who she hasn't seen in 8 months who is back home and has been talking to everynight on the week on the phone over me. Now I rung 2 hours later and said I do want to be friends after before I said I wasn't sure. I know I was stupid and shouldn't of kept contacting her. Now she is still saying i love you and when I say I wish we were still together she says she does too. She was crying to me on the phone how she has no one inculding her family. But we had so much fun together and she knows that. Now she is home for the hoildays and I ended up seeing her that night coz she didn't go coz they changed it till the night after. Now it appears nothing has changed we slept in the same bed cuddling all night and we also kissed and had sex once. I was a bit confused so I asked her later on how she sees how relationship now. She said "I really don't want to stress myself thinking about that.. I don't want to analyse anything.. I just want to take everything as it comes thats why I felt so trapped before. because it was like everything was planned and everything was set out and defined and I don't want everything to feel like it is set in concrete"
She also said that if thats not what i want then thats okay and she wouldn't want to hold this against me. I told her I am happy for things to be this way for now. But I do want a relationship and to know that she isn't seeing anyone else. She is acting the same as when we were together but I hate the thought of people knowing we aren't together and she could be with someone else aswell. But she told me she can't be with me also coz she has found her self looking at other guys. Is there anyway to try and get this relationship back? or should I wait and see what happens? She tells me she still loves me and it is almost the same as when we had our relationship or could she just be using me till she finds someone else?
You girlfiend is going through a big change in her life. She is meeting new people and learning to live in a new location. That is a lot to deal with. She sure misses home and her friends and you. She probably broke up with you to make it easier for her to start from scratch at university (or at least it seemed like a good idea at the time). She's confused and probably will remain confused until she sorts some things out. Your best bet is to give her space and remain friends and see her when you can. You should also get ahead with your life. Now that she's 6 hours away most of the year, you have time to make new friends and new memories.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com