I canít help but feel lost because for me the sun rises and sets with her.Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
Iím a 34 year old single father of two living on the West Coast. She is a 30 year old thatís been married for 10 years living on the East Coast. I met her two years ago through work and, we both had very strong feelings for one another. Even though I wanted to get more intimate, I couldnít because I know how it feels to be hurt by your woman like that. I also respect marriage and everything that it stands for. To make a long story endless, I broke it off but last month she called and said she would be in town for business. I thought about not being around but I took the chance of meeting her again hoping she would be everything I disliked about wifeís who cheat. WRONG! I stopped liking her. Instead, I fell in love. A feeling I thought I could never have again since my divorce four years ago. Sheís back home now and says sheíll be moving out soon but, when I asked her when sheíll be filling for divorce what I heard was, ďIím not there yet.... But, I canít imagine not being with you for the rest of my life.Ē At this point, I broke it off again so she can have time to sort her life out which Iím sure I didnít help. Now, well. Now I think about her night and day. I canít help but feel lost because for me the sun rises and sets with her. What do I do? How do I move on?
Cheating wives aren't the issue. The lonliness of a loveless marriage is.
The big thing is that you both are probably acting on lust, not love. As you know, love takes time to grow.
I wouldn't expect her to get a divorce, but keeping in touch in a non-commital way might not be a bad idea. Don't force her on the issue. She may have just needed a fling to realize what she is missing or to realize what she might lose.
If things don't seem to be going the way you want them to, stop contact. No use toruring yourself.
In the meantime, DATE. Find someone who is ready, willing and able to date you.
-- from Marc
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