she just has not been the same since i fell for her.
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I have been going out with my girl for about 2 years off an on. I love her very much and she just has not been the same since i fell for her. I hope she will come around so we can be happy like we used to be. She has been avoiding me and ignoring me alot lately and says that I am always hounding her to much but I have not changed anything I have always acted this way and she has always liked it that I give her attention. She says she doesn't know if she even loves me anymore. How can I rekindle our relationship and make things right again.
It sounds like there is more to the story than you posted. You say nothing has changed, but that 'she just has not been the same since i fell for her.' How does she know you fell for her? Did you tell her? What did you say?
If, in telling her, you sounded too serious, or maybe just serious enough, she may not have expected that and might not be ready for the commitment that you are asking for.
The best thing to do is lighten up a little on the 'hounding' aspect, but also ask her what she's honestly and truly thinking. She said, "she doesn't know if she even loves me anymore" and that's a strong statement. Ask her, and promise not to be judgemental, what caused her to come to that conclusion. When you have your answers, you'll know where you stand and what you should do with regards to staying in the relationship or not.
-- from Marc
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