Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been living with my boyfriend for over 3 years now. We've been together for about 5 years, well the past year and half I've started noticing a pattern with me and jealousy. First it was towards his ex's and than it started becoming more intense, with things like what he watched on tv or in magazines. If he would happen to be watching a show and a woman in a bikini came out I would start arguing with him, telling him that the only reason he was watching the show was to see the woman. It's getting worse as time goes on. I'm worried because I have never been the jealous type, and I hate the feeling. I know he loves me. I just need help understanding where it's all coming from and why it would just start up. Like I said before it first started with his ex's, even though it has nothing to do with me feeling that they are better looking than me it was more with what he did with them in the past, and I know everyone has there past as I know that I do, and I know that I am being a hypocrite for being jealous of his. I hate feeling jealous and I want it to stop it's ruinning my relationship, please help.
It is good that your see and recognize this problem.
For more help with your jealousy, check out the following link and try talking to a teacher, pastor, or therapist.
-- from Marc
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