Do you think we will be able to get back together?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
It all started last year when I was determined I was not going to attend my Junior Prom. Because my friends stayed on me so tight I finally decided that I would go. I wanted to ask one of the guys that I showed lambs with but my mom suggested that I ask a guy from school because he was so much closer. Although I wasn't all that hyped up about the whole idea I figured I would ask him anyways. Well when I asked him he seemed really excited and said yes but I didn't think anything of it. A few days later a friend of mine wanted to know if I would go out with him. I didn't like him in that way but I figured he would be someone to go out with and talk too. So when he asked me I said yes. Well to make a long story short I really disliked him and ignored him most of the time. When he asked if I just wanted to be friends I was relieved. He tried sevearl times to get me back but I kept saying no. He followed me everywhere and was always trying to talk with me. I just got to where I ignored him altogether. About two months later he got a new girlfriend and things settled down. I was relieved! Now that six months have pasted I have realized I lost one of the BEST things in my life! He was really sweet and loving and the best part of all really nice looking! He still has a girlfriend but we have started to talk again. He comes by my house every now and again and speaks to me almost every time he sees me. He acts as though he wants to impress me when he is with his friends (wrestling and fighting) and makes comments to my friends. He told them I was the best girlfriend he ever had, wanted to know if I ever talked about him, and was staring at me one day as I walked across the parking lot. Do you think he still likes me? Do you think we will be able to get back together? I love him so much and I wish I could change all of this!!
It sounds like he likes you. The big question is is he with this other girl to make you jealous or does he care for her.
If he started seeing her to make you jealous, well, it worked.
Probably the best thing you could do is find out what his feelings are for her. She's innocent in all this. If he cares for her and she cares for him then you may want to think about moving on.
If he doesn't really care for her, then let him be the one to end it and wait a while for the smoke to clear before you start seeing him, otherwise, she will feel not just heart-broken, but jilted by you and you may end up having more to deal with than you hoped for.
-- from Marc
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com