We Dated, We Broke Up, He's Back with his Ex
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I am a sophomore in highschool, and I met this totally cute and nice guy who is a junior. We met in P.E. and we kinda hit it off from the beginning. But anyway he was goin out with this totally bitchy girl who was also a junior, and they only had gone out for a month when he told me that they had broken up. So he said to me that me and him should hang out sometime..And I was so excited because I had wanted to go out with him since the moment I first met him, I was just waiting for him and his gf to breakup...So anyways we had made plans to go to a movie and then to a party and we just made all of these plans...
Now his ex-gf is in my math class and she found out that him and I were goin out. Well she flipped and started bitchen me out in front of the class, then she thretened me. Anyway I jus' ignored her. But so I told him what had happened and I told him that I didnt think we should see each other right now and that we should wait until they got all of their stuff figured out. But he refused and said that he wanted to see me anyway. So we kept seeing each other.
Then the following weekend in which we had made our plans he found out that he had detention all weekend. But he came over 3 days earlier to meet my parents and spend time with me. Then I went over to his house the monday after he got out of detention. We jus' hung out and talked. Well that night when I went home, I got into this huge fight with my parents over him, and it ended with I couldnt see him anymore. Well I didnt care what they said I was gonna see him anyway, behind their backs. I told him what had happened and I was in tears, he said jus' to wait and that he will make them trust him agian so that I could see him. Well sure enough this whole thing between my parents and me was over by the next weekend and I was allowed to see him agian. So he started doing concrete and was workin for my step-dad.
I went and saw him that Saturday while he was workin and we seemed ok. He hugged me and we talked and we flirted and we hugged. So I thought that everything was goin ok. But then i dont know what happened that Monday. He said he wasnt ready for a relationship. And I told him that I respected him for that, and we decided that we were gonna be friends and then possibly move back into our relationship. Well then the Tuesday to follow his gf came over and gave me a note. She said that they were back together and that I should stay the hell away. So I was furious and then later that day someone told me that he was talkin sht about me behind my back. Well when I heard this I was even more so pissed off, and i totaly blew up at him. He said that he would never say anything bad about me and that who ever told me that was jus' tryin to make trouble. So i believe him because he has never lied to me before. I told him that I was gonna get him fired if he did anything. But Im not that mean...
So I am jus' confused and I dont know what to do. I am trying to make him jealous by goin out with one of his friends..
So I here are my questions...
1. Was he using me to make his gf jealous?
2. and I need help it I cant stop thinkin about him and all of the stuff that we have talked about...And he said that he still thinks about me...So should I fight and get him back, or forget about him and find someone else?
3. Why is his gf so jealous of me for, when she has him?
4. Jus' help I feel hopeless and depressed...
5. He still flirts with me but we dont know what to talk about...So I dont know what to do...
You really need to rethink some of your priorities here. You are actively talking about lying to your parents and destroying their trust in you. Then you actively threaten your guy's job because you're irritated?? None of these are the actions of a mature, responsible person. It's time to sit down and really evaluate your own life and your own priorities, before you start thinking about involving another person in them.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com