I Cheated and Lied to Two Girls
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
there's this girl i like n she likes me 2... her friends n my friends kno dat we like each other n stuff... but its like dis.. we've grown really close n all n ive been supposed 2 ask her out.. but i juss cudn't!!
oh n it gets worse... ive had a gurlfriend all along n haven't been able 2 tell her n i told my friends not 2 tell her as well!! i was gonna tell her but not yet.. one ov her friends found out n told her.. dis is her best friend.. so obviously she got really upset n wen i called she was all angry n stuff n kept askin why i dind't tell her!! she called my 2 best friends n asked dem why dey lied n everythin!! n well deyre her friends 2 but newayz!!!!
i cudn't talk 2 her properly... so i sent her dis msg i was like tellin her dat i dunno if shes gonna believe me or no n i tld her dat i really luv her! i also told her dat i haven't broken up witt my girlfriend bcoz i haven't been able 2.. ive really tried loads ov times but its like everytime i talk about separatin.. she gets all sentimental n i juss dunno how.. ever since i met dis otha gurl.... i feel dat id have a betta chance witt her...... i cudve gone out witt both but i cudn't hurt her dat way!!
so far she's bein normal but she keeps insistin dat if i want her i shud break up with my grilfriend! she told me dat its unfair 2 go round witt my girlfriend if i dun like her but she dusn't know my gurlf.. she'll do crazy stff!! i really dunno how 2 tell my gurlfriend dat i dun wanna be witt her nemore!!!!!
pls help.. i can't lose dis otha gurl she means 2 much 2 me.. i really love her!! but ive hurt her bad!!!! her friends tell her she's mad 2 be waitin 4 me n dat i can't be trusted... but she won't lissen n i dun want her 2 eithaa.... but bcoz ov me she's been insulted like so many times infront ov several people coz everyone knows bout us n bout me n my gurlf n dey're all talkkin bout it.. we live in a small place soooo word gets round fast!!! n she's really ppopular!
Honesty is THE most important thing you can have in a relationship. It can't be repaired in a day or even a week. You're going to have to put in a lot of very serious effort, over several weeks, to get this repaired. Either you are mature enough to sit down and do this the right way, or maybe you should take a break from dating for a while, and sort these things out in your mind.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com