I Mistreated Her - Things are Different Now
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year and some change now and it seems i have no one to really give me advice on my problem so here it goes. When we first started we dated for a few months and then i put thangs on hold because i had some "issues" wit another female that had to be dealt wit before i could continue dating her. Then a couple months later we hooked back up and thats were good even when i had left state. And i came back because i could'nt be wit out her ya feel me. But we have went though some "hard times" but we always seemed to work it out because we have a open relationship and we always would talk and it's still like that.
But i hurt her and she let me back and she hurt me and i let her back. And we both agreed to just start over and really make it work. But when i hurt her she was acting like everythang was cool(afterwards)she still hugged me and kissed me tha same there was nothing really different. But then like a couple dayz later she tells me that she was about to brake-up wit me because i had hurt her and she also to me that tha love was gone when she was thankin that and she had started to look around for someone who would show her tha "attention" that she was missing. So of course i was confused at how she could say all of that but show me different.
Anywayz she told me she met this guy at school and she was just looking for a friend to "kick it" wit. She said that he knows i've gotta boyfriend and were just cool were just friends. And like i told her i'ma guy and i know how guys thank and operate. It seems she just blew me off oh yeah and tha guy likes her of course. So i mean i called her like usual and now when i call most of tha time she's on tha phone wit him. Granted she'll get off tha phone wit him to talk to me but when i talked to her it's like it doesn't matter what i would say anymore and i could hear it in her voice (duh). And she usual wears her contacts and she told me that he wanted to see her wit out her contacts and SHE DID IT!
Anywayz she calls like 2 dayz later and tells me she had been doin me wrong so i thought she was gonna tell me she had cheated on me. But she didn't she said that for tha last couple of dayz she hadn't been really takin me serious that she remembered all of what i said but she just wasn't takin me serious and she kept sayin i'm so sorry i did it and so we talked then thats when we decided that theres gonna be no more games and no more b.s. just me and her. I mean she let me back like 2 or 3 times and this was her first so i let her back. And i told her i ain't gone mess up anymore since tha last time i did and she told me tha same.
But still when i talk to her it seems as though she doesn't love me anymore. I mean some dayz she really shows me she does and then somedayz i wonder. Oh yeah i forgot to tell you that her parent said that she can't see me for a while because she got in some trouble wit me and they thank i'm holdin her back and she can do better than me. So tha only thang i can do is talk to her on tha phone and thats it. Also she had moved for a lil bit and majority of tha time she was gone i went out there to see her all tha time when none of her so called "homies" would. So has you can see i really love this girl beyond what words can say. And i just need a lil advice to help me out so if you can do that for me that'll be off tha chain. I just wanna be happy again thats all. And i honestly thank that nobody can love her as much as i can.
If you can only talk to her on the phone for now, then maintain that friendship. Talk to her, be honest her, share all of your thoughts. The most important thing you can have is a honest friendship, and you have the perfect opportunity to focus on that right now.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com