I'm Jealous over Everything
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Hi. My husband and I have been married since December 2001. We have a 2 year old daughter and he has had multiple partners in the past (before we got together) and he is my one and only.
I have a huge problem that is ruining our marriage. My parents are divorced and were not faithful. I am very jealous. I get insanely jealous whenever nudity is on tv. Even if a girl is in her underwear and you can see anything I just go nuts. I get mad at him for watching it even if he doesn't know it's coming on. I've left the room and even slept on the couch because of my insecurities.
I know he would never cheat on me but sometimes I worry if I am pushing him away. But I try not to let it bother me and it always does what can I do?
It definitely seems like your jealousy is a bit extreme, if you get upset when things come on regular network TV that he couldn't even know were about to be shown! And yes this could easily destroy the relationship, as he has to deal with this water torture of you being upset over things he has no control over.
I highly, highly recommend going to see a therapist or minister about this. There are many low cost or free options in most cities for women, and most health insurance covers it too. Don't think of this as a minor problem. Think of it as a harmful disease which is attacking your family. If you don't get it under control, it literally could destroy everything. I have so many people who write me because they've gotten divorced or broken up from jealousy that it's not funny. The time to take action is now - not when the pieces are on the floor and you're hoping to start again.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com