Her Mafia Guy is MIA
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Okay, I met this HOT guy--totally my style...little bad mafia boy with big brown eyes, well sculpted and has an INCREDIBLE smile. Him and I had been eyeflirting for quite some time, but he never asked for my number! So, I swallowed my pride and asked to exchange numbers so we could "hang out". We ended up more than "hanging out" in his car a week later. No sex, just making out. He dissapeared after that.
I called him like 3 times in two weeks coz I hadn't heard from him at ALL. He finally called back on week 3 and said he was avoiding my calls because he claims that he overly enjoyed making out with me and it seemed like I didnt enjoy makin out with him. Which was BS coz I totally did. I called a couple days later and we planned to go out that night. Never happened..i couldnt get a hold of him and its like he dissapeared again! I called the next day and the day after...and the day after..which is unlike me, but I was going out of town for a month and there would be NO action where I was going. The last call I basically told him that it would be the last call from me and that he needs to communicate with me because I really can't read what he's doing if he keeps avoiding me. Then I said that I'd still like to hear his voice though I'll be gone for a month. I said it nicer and in a calm tone...not an angry tone although i was realllly frustrated.
Yeah, He still hasnt called...it's been 3 weeks since that call. What the HECK is he thinking? What should I do to get him to chase me instead? I've NEVER had this friggin problem...but then again he's the most chased guy I've had my eyes on.
You guys had your date together, and then he never called you back, and despite you calling several times you only got one brief "I didn't think it was working" call. And despite many calls since then, he's just not responding.
I have to say it really sounds like you two just didn't click as far as he was concerned. He wouldn't tell that to you directly, but his actions are saying it pretty clearly. It sounds like he has many girls to choose from, and for whatever reason the other girls in his circle just work better with him. You can never tell with a guy why this is - might be you reminded him of an evil ex girlfriend, or your perfume reminded him of his mother. It could be something totally bizarre. But for whatever reason, he just didn't click with you enough to want to persue it.
I think you've made your intentions more than clear to him, and given him every chance :) But it sounds like it's a no go. At this point he might have moved you from the 'OK but not worth persuing' category into the 'stalker stay away' category :) I would really leave him alone for a while. Who knows, in a few months that part might fade from his mind and he might go back to flirting with you, or maybe he'll just go on with his life. But you have to let him make that move. If you push him at this point, he'll just get further away from you.
I'd chalk this up to a lesson in love, and look for another guy that attracts you the way he did, but that actually has the same feelings for you when you hook up.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com