My Girlfriend is Seeing Another Guy
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
my girlfriend and i have been together for 5yrs and sometime last year i went to england for 5 months. when i returned she told me that she no longer wanted to be with me. she says that she never felt comfortable with me.
recently she told that there is another guy she is seeing and now she is caught between the two of us. she has never given me a good reason as to why she feels that way after being together for so long. what am i to do. should i just back-off and leave her alone
The girl broke up with you. I know that's hard to accept, but it's true. People don't break up when the are happy. They break up when they are really unhappy.
It really sounds like she is using you as a safety net. She's not sure about this new guy yet, and she doesn't want to be stuck with nobody. So she's stringing you along to make sure you don't start up a new relationship - but she's of course staying with her current boyfriend because that's where she wants to be. People don't stay dating someone if they are able to date someone else they like better.
Definitely give her time for a while - and get on with your own life as well. Even if she eventually came back to you - how could you know she would stay, given her tendency to run off without discussing issues when she feels like things aren't right?
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com