I Lied to Him - He Doesn't Trust Me Now
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
I know for sure that I am still in love with my ex, but how do I know if he still loves me, when he is the type of guy who thinks that he always has to be right.
Him and I had some problems and we broke up. I lied to him about something and i apologized for it, he was hitting me, he said he was sorry about it. Now that we have broken up, sometimes he is really sweet and other times he acts like a jerk. Does he still want to be with me?
It's really hard to tell how he feels about things sometimes because he won't talk to me about things that are bothering him. Should I still love him? I think about him constantly, When i get older I want to have his baby and I told him that. Well when him and I weren't going out, i didn't know him very well and I thought that i hated him, so i lied to him and told him that i was pregnant, then this one night i called him and his sister got on the phone and asked me if i was really pregnant, but i thought that it was his mother and everything was screwed up, he really cared about me then and plus it was kind of a test to see if he was just with me because he thought that i was pregnant.
Now i made a pact with him and told him that i would never lie to him again, and i haven't, but now he doesn't believe anything that i tell him. What should i do? Now when we are at school, sometimes he calls me a b%%%% or sometimes he flirts with me, but of course just like a man, he won't admit that he was flirting.
I am only 14, but when i was with him, it was the best relationship i have ever had in my life and i truly believe that i want to marry him and have his kids, i know it's a bit early to be thinking about all of this, but i don't know weather i should flirt with him, ignore him, talk to him? somtimes when i try to talk to him, he ignores me and he won't give me a second chance. Please write me back and tell me what i should do about this situation. this means a lot to me .
You really need to take a break here. You lied to him to "test him"? He HITS YOU??? These are really really bad things in a relationship. This is a very toxic relationship. He's swearing at you in public?
Take a break for a month. Spend time with your friends and on your favorite hobbies. Remember what it is to be happy as a single person. If he is really meant to be, he will start treating you better. If he grows up and starts to treat you better, and if you truly can stop lying in return, it might work. Until then, keep your distance.
-- from Lisa
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