I Caught him Chatting with Another Woman

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met this guy and we have been dating for 5 months. We have a very strong attraction to eachother and in fact he is the only man that I have had a sexual realtionship with.

Recently he left his e-mail open and I made the mistake of reading it and there was a message from another girl on an internet dating site. They had never met but had been chatting since around November when we were just causually dating. When I confronted him he said it meant nothing to him, she was crazy and just kept e-mailing him and that he's only dating me.

I assumed he was in our relationship just for sex and accused him of that but he said I'm the first person he's slept with in over a year and if he wanted to use someone for sex it wouldn't be someone like me. When I told him I didn't think I could see him anymore he just said he can't do anything about it.

I'm finding it really hard to get over the relationship and the worse part is that I still want to have sex with him. How can I get over this situation? Should I try to work on the relationship?

RomanceClass.com Advice
If he's been chatting with other women this whole time and not telling you about it, that's not a great sign at all. The most important thing you can have in any relationship is trust. He may not be using you for sex - but he's not treating you like a girlfriend either.

I would take a break from him for a while. You should never be with someone just for sex!! I have a ton of tips on the site about dealing with a breakup. Get through this period and then see how you feel. If you really and truly want to try again with him, then sit down and talk about the situation.

-- from Lisa
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