Long Distance Proposal Failed
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have one friend. Honestly, I love her so much. I proposed her but she refused and said saddenly that i ruined friendship and she's so upset. I asked her why she refused me. She said we met online( We already met three times in person) and her sister and parents don't like her to talk with me on the ph. Her parents don't know we met . But I told her that I really love her and I really mean it and ask her to let me as her friend again.
Then, one week later, we became frineds again. We'd been friends nearly two years. Sometimes, I tried to say her how much I love her. She replied "Let see". She just said it and she didn't say she loves me or she will consider about this or anything. But, last week, she asked me to end the friendship and asked her to stop calling to her mobile and she gave me the same reasons when she refused my propose. She doesn't have a boy friend yet. I know it from her friends and my friends who know her very closely. We are living in very far places.
Pls help me what should I do now? Do I have a chance to get her love?
You'd only met her 3 times and you proposed? That could be why she fled. It's really important to know someone very thoroughly - like in dating in person seriously for 6 or more months - before you commit your entire life to them. If you were trying to grab her after only 3 meetings, she felt a lot of pressure.
If she asked you to stop calling her, then the respectful thing to do is to agree to it. I would take a break here and consider how you might go more slowly with a future girlfriend, to wait until you both really are ready.
-- from Lisa
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