I'm Trying to Date Strangers
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
i find that the last few girls i've tried to date, i have come across this same type of obstacle. these are girls whom i would get their phone numbers and when i would try calling them, sometimes their like never avaliable. it's understandable if they are busy, however if i do leave a message to call me back, they never do. for example this one girl i'm trying to check, i call her up to ask her to the movies. she said she would call me closer to the day of the date to let me know if she would come, but she never called. i called her the day before, just to touch base and for her to call me back but she never did, and as such we never ended up going.
what should i do to avoid these types of things and what can you suggest i can do to and places i can go to meet women to date who would show some more interest so that things can go more smoothly? if you need more info for better clairification, let me know.thank you.
Do you even know these women you're asking out? It sounds like they are avoiding you and that you're not friends with them in the first place! A date should be about finally having private time with someone that you know in public. A date should be a person that you are friends with that you now want to move on to the next level.
These women sound like they're afraid to tell you that they're not interested and they're playing the hiding games! This isn't the way that a friend of yours would act. If a woman isn't even comfortable talking to you on the phone, how could she be comfortable being along with you for many hours?
You need to take a step back here. If you're interested in a woman, don't just leap into taking her out all alone. That's very threatening for any human being. Instead, talk to her. Spend time with her. Build up the friendship. Learn her interests! Find out what sorts of movies she enjoys.
Then when a movie that SHE wants to see comes along, offer to go along with her to it. Don't even plan dinner! A movie is very non-threatening, especially if you guys already have built up the talking relationship. After the movie if things are good, she'll want to get dinner or a drink or something! But by taking it in stages, you make it non-threatening, you make it safe. And the more comfortable she is, the more likely she is to enjoy herself and to want to do it again.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com