He Only Wants Sex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I had been seeing a guy for a few months. Every visit ended up with us having sex, he has since moved out of state for a job opportunity and was back in town recently and wanted to see me. Once again, the visit consisted of good conversation that led to sex. He said he wants to stay in touch, but I have not heard back from him.
Should I call? or... leave that up to him to do? or... just forget it?
It's a shame that he's putting the sex over conversation! While sex is fun, a great conversation can be just as fun (and usually much longer lasting!). Of your three choices I would definitely vote against "waiting around for him to do something". This isn't the 1600s. You're not his handmaiden waiting at his beck and call. If you're interested in seeing him, then call him. If you're not, then don't. He's the one that should be waiting on you, not the other way around. He's the one hopping in and out of your life.
Some people just aren't good at keeping in touch. Every relationship tends to have one person who does the organizing and one person who does the going-along-with-it. Maybe he's just not a good keep-in-toucher. So call him. Keep the contact going, if you're interested. But if it seems he just doesn't want to talk, I'd find someone else who is more sincere.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com