He's Looking at Old Porn
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I found a pic on my boyfriends computer of him with his ex girlfriend in a sexual position. It was transferred on our new computer recently and we've been together for over a year. He said he contemplated deleting it, but kept it---"it was probably a guy thing" was his excuse.
Do you think he is cheating on me? Is he looking at pictures of naked girls all the time? Does he want to have sex with other girls?
Something that every one of us has to accept is that our partners have a past. That is a GOOD thing because that past made them what we love today. The past always includes other people! It would be impossible and quite damaging to somehow erase all memory of previous relationships from someone's brain. Most of us keep pictures and letters and so on from previous relationships. It's just like keeping a photo album.
I would ask him to back the file up onto CD. That way he can keep it as a memory of his past - but in a back closet somewhere in case when he's 80 he wants to remember what a stud he was in his youth. It's one thing to keep old pictures - it's another thing to look at them daily.
-- from Lisa
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Photos of ex
User Submitted Response from a 16-20 year old Male