He Has Children - I Am Jealous
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Two weeks before Christmas, my husband found out that he has a 13 year old Son. The woman was working for his Doctor and took his information out of his file and contacted him to tell him about this son. She has continued to call him at work, but my Husband has yet to meet the boy. She claims that she does not want anything, but still calls to chat.
My Husband has another son by his first wife and a daughter by his second.
He thinks my feelings and emotions are out of control when I tell him not to talk to her, he says it's jealousy, but i feel it's a matter of respect for our relationship.
He does not even remember this woman, and she certainly never told him she was pregnant.
Should I continue to stay in a relationship I can't belive in or trust in?
I have to admit, I'm a bit baffled here by your response. He has a child that is of his blood. Surely he wants to know, meet and interact with this child. This means he needs a relationship with the child's mother. For you to deny that to him seems very odd to me.
Your relationship should not be so feeble that any other female poses a dangerous risk and that he will only stay yours if he wears blinders. Your relationship should be strong enough that he can have female friends and still love you best because it's his choice.
You might want to read the many tips on teh siet about handling jealousy, if you feel you'll lose him just because he talks to another female.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com