He Lies, He's Into Porn, I Get Violent in Return
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I'm 22 and have been married for a year. I have no trust in my husband since we got married. At first some woman would come over banging on the door for him. After I got her to go away then he got into adult porn and always lies to me about it.
I try to talk to him to get him to understand my point but i end up getting violent. I need help to trust him and stop being violent can you help please.
I know you've heard it before, but violence is NEVER the answer. No matter how angry he makes you, if you start getting violent, he's going to get violent in return, and you both are going to end up in the hospital or worse. If you can't talk through an issue, it's time to call a break.
If this guy is lying to you, then you need to get that fixed. Honesty is the most important thing in any relationship. Find a minister, another adult or a therapist that you both can talk to. And then go talk. If you find yourself getting upset and violent then STOP immediately and put the talk off until you can handle it quietly. Make this your #1 priority in life. Either you guys get this addressed quickly or it is going to escalate and get worse.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com