He Cheated and Wouldn't Even Take Responsibility

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
My jealousy is ruining my life. My boyfriend cheated on me in the beginning of our relationship in an "whatever happens in cancun stays in cancun" type of deal. He confessed to me that he met a girl that he had possibly fallen in love with, but that he still wanted to be with me. This tore my heart apart and sooner or later I got over it.

Four months later, I found out that he had been emailing "i love yous" to the girl and she was planning to visit. I found out that all that had ended before I had read the emails. His whole explanation was that, all of this happened when we weren't "really in love" like we are now. His explanation of the infidelity made me livid that he didn't own up to his betrayal.

This happened 6 months ago, and I have become increasingly jealous. It goes to the point where I find myself want to physically harm him or cheat on him just so that he can feel how much hurt he's caused me.

How do I get over this...can I salvage something here or is it a lost cause?

RomanceClass.com Advice
Wow, no wonder you were livid!! Not only did he cheat, but he kept cheating and cheating and then when caught he tried to lie his way out of it?? Just why are you still WITH this guy?

If he's going to be so open-faced liar about it and think he was completely right in doing this all, it's time to cut the strings. You can never make something work with someone you hate like that. If you are the point of wanting to harm him or torment him, it's time to call it quits. You deserve someone who will love you, who you can trust. It's not him. Yes, it's hard to break up with someone. But it's even worse to give yourself pain every day because you stay with someone who is bad for you.

-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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