I Love my Good Friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I'm in high school and there's some problems I was wondering if you guys could help me resolve. I dated a girl for almost a year and we were really close but we drifted apart and broke up. I didn't date nearly all last year but I got really close to a friend of mine but me and her didn't work out. Anyways lately I've been feeling like a want a g/f. I want someone that i can talk to about stuff and be with. A lot of guys are in a relationship for sex and all that but for me I don't care about that right now I just want a girl that I can be close with.
Anyways there's this girl and we've been friends for like 4 years or so and at the end of last year we became really close but summer hit and we promised we'd call each other but things didn't work and I didn't talk to her barely all summer because I was working 6 days a week. We got back in school and the 1st second I saw her I knew I liked her as more then a friend, it just hit me and I'm sure, but I don't know how to let her know.
We always talk in the halls and I'm going to be in her class in a couple weeks for the rest of the year and we've talked about sitting together and all that. She's great looking, smart, funny, and I enjoy every minute I spend with her I know she's the one.
Recently a friend of her's that is a friend of mine asked her about me and what she thinks. She told her she thinks I'm good-looking and funny and fun to be with but that we've been such good friends she isn't sure how she'd feel about dating me. She said she'd think about it and everything but I dunno what to do.
She's always on my mind now I dunno how it started but I know I love her and I find myself through the day seeing her. I know that sounds all corny and everything but what should I do I really like her and I want things to work out but I never seem to find a good time to bring it up, or should I at all?
The best relationships always start with great friendships - so it's perfect that you have build up your friendship the way you have! And since so many millions of other people have turned their friendships into relationships, you can too. Yes, it'll be something you worry about. But anything in life worth having is worth putting effort into.
I have a whole how-to on it here -
just take it slow. Don't leap into romantic dinners. Instead, build it up over time so she sees this isn't scary. It's natural. Go out ot movies more often, hug hello and goodbye, build it up in stages.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com