After 10 Years, I Want a New Life
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
Hi, I've been with my husband for 10 years but it's been an awful relationship. Always in & out of jail. Cheated on me. I've taken all of this because sometime i think i can't do it on my own. Now tho i feel different, i'm tired and just want to move on. He wants to try to work it out but i think i've givin up. We have 2 daughters, i just want to be free now. Am i giving up to quickly, is there any point in saving this relationship?
If you've worked on this for 10 years, that is an awful long time to keep trying at something that he is not holding up his end on. You should never stay with someone because you feel that you have to. You could always try therapy with him to see if there is any chance of love left - but if you honestly don't love him and are only staying because "it would be hard on your own", then get a support group of friends and family and go on your own. Yes it's not easy - but it's far better than using a guy just because you don't want to be lonely or to deal with life as a single mother.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com