My Girlfriend Tries to Make Me Jealous on Purpose
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 6 months now. we are very close, she is my best friend, and we have spent every day together except when one of us is out of town for these 6 months. she is still in high school and i am a freshman in college.
for the first 4 months she did things to make me jelous and she admits to doing it. she said she has worked on things like flirting with other guys and telling me things to make me jelous. i still am hurt by the things she did and i still sometimes bring it up because i really havent got over it yet. her response is always well we had only been together for X amount of time, but she says she knew she loved me from the first week we were really getting to know each other before we were "going out". i dont flirt with other girls, to me i dont need to, she gives me everything i need and she is the only girl i look at.
the other night we got drunk together and we were asking questions and we had to tell the truth and i asked her if she still flirts with guys and who it was, she told me she didnt flirt but she was just very "friendly" two guys. one of the guys is one she has been trying to make me jealous about, at the beggining of the school year he was with one of her friends and she would say stuff like, he is so hot i dont know why he is with her, and tell me how they have nicknames for each other and stuff. recently she put his senior picture on the outside of her folder, she has two sides of pictures on her folder, one with all of her friends and one with just me, she put him on my side.
she doesnt understand why i am upset still about her telling me this the other night. should i be upset, am i wasting my time with her, is it me just being insecure?
It was really bad that she deliberately tried to upset and make you jealous. A relationship is supposed to be about two people who support and care for each other - not two people who antagonize and deliberately upset each other.
It's normal for people to have male and female friends, but she needs to be careful that she does not encourage him. That would be really unfair, to get him interested in her when she is already taken. It would also of course be disrespectful to you.
-- from Lisa
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