I'm Chasing Him and Driving Him Away
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
theres this guy hes the pastors son and ive liked him for 8 yrs well i wrote him a note tellin him i wanted to be friends the first 2 no response so i wont him again saying i guess u dont wanna be friends but if you change ur mind email me. he did the next day. weve been im each other tryin to get to know each other. its been almost 4 weeks and weve gotten in to 2 arguements where i then emailed him saying forget the friends thing
he wrote back sayin sorry and that he values our friendship. ive told him how ive felt bout him but he hasnt said anything. he looks and smiles everytime i see him. does he like me or is he trying to avoid the subject. i also have a bad rep at the church cuz of my past plus hes not allowd to date he says theres only one person in his life [the one he likes] that he tells his life to and it aint me cuz i seem to be the one always doing the talking. what is he doing and how can i tell if a guy is interested .... thanx
What are you doing fighting with him already and threatening to abandon him?? A relationship is about people sticking by each other through trouble. So far you're proving to him that you're flaky and unable to handle stress.
You need to take a step back here and make sure you're really capable of being a friend or more for him. If you think you are, then it's time to start acting like it. Being a friend is about being stable, reliable and fun to be with. It's not about starting fights after only a few weeks and threatening to run off. Prove to him through daily actions that you can handle the relationship.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com