Is he cheating or am I just jealous

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Hello there, I have a terrible problem, my partner of almost 4 years is sms with a girl since september this year, i am so jealous about this we been fighting over and over, i think is something more than that, but now we are at the point that he dont know what to do, what to say, what to think, he dont know nothing anymore, im still so jealous, i can get it out of my head, i folow him around i even call the girl and left a message, i dont know what to do and how to get him back to me, i can eat, sleep and all i know is to check things out and think think think, i need help, im so scare to loose him and i think i already did, he said she was someone that he talk to but he does from 9 in the morning to 2 in the morning, he said she was married and he dont want another relationship, he wants to be left alone, i can begine to tell you the pain im under sometimes i feel my chest is closing in when i think about it, i dont know how to handle the situation, i dont know what to do, he is always home late, sometimes he needs to visit clients and here i am sitting thinking he is with her, he is also home on the weekends but from time to time at the same times usually he does the desaparieng act, and i start feeling this thing in my chest that he is smsing this other women, please send me some advice im so heat broken, lost in a lot of pain, i love this men to pieces but i think the more i said the more i push him away, and the more i talk about the subject the more he is doing, i really need help!!!! can you help me? Advice

Tell him how you feel. No yelling or accusing, just calm talk. Let him know if he needs someone to talk to it's you.

If he continues seeing this woman, ask him to move out because the pain is too great for you, but not until it gets to this. Don't threaten at first. No one likes to have their backs put up against a wall and he might listen to you at first.

You have to put yourself first, otherwise you are no good for anyone else.

-- from Jenn
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