His Moods Keep Changing
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
its christmas.. and it just seems like everyone has someone. there are couples everywhere i look.. and usually each christmas i try to look past my singleness.. but this year its just too hard! i've been single for way too long. and yes i've had guys like me but i've just passed them off because for the longest thing i was looking for perfect and my future husband..
who was i kidding! i realized that i did have perfect right in front of me.. he's someone that i would have never guessed i'd like.. but it happend.. and the thing is i had all my chances to be with him.. but being a stupid idiot i chose to like his best friend.. and i lost his friendship and i lost any respect he had for me..
now he just gives me dirty looks and walks around pretending he doesnt know me.. and its hard to talk to him because he's not the easiest person to talk to when he hates you.
lets go back to last year.. he was the nicest guy in our whole school.. we met through a friend and i went back to his house with a few friends and we just joked around.. and the next day i heard that he was talking about me the whole night after i had left.. and flattered i just passed it off because i was crushing on his best friend (BIG MISTAKE) .. after that we didnt talk much but when we did it was just a hi hows it going .. or he'd pass me by.. but for my birthday be bought me the most gorgeous earrings in the whole world! i loved them.. and i wish i could've thanked him more then i did because he put a lot of thought into that and really it wasnt neccesary for him to get my anything... but he was the only person to remember my birthday.. and all i could care about was if his best friend remembered and if he'd say happy birthday.. and of course he didnt..
shorty after that we stopped talking all summer.. and he told everyone that i was a bitch and that he wanted nothing to do with me.. and i hated the silence.. at first i thought it was just because i missed having him as a friend.. so when school started up again i started talking to him again.. and he came to visit me at work one night.. and i had so much fun! and it really scared me.. we laughed and i could be myself around him.
but after that night.. it just stopped.. it was silence again.. and lately he's all i think about. and i see him at school and i badly just want to talk to him and start a convo. but its hard.. too hard.. i dont know if he'd ever talk to me again..
help me! im crushing hard. and i cant tell anyone because they'd just make fun of me.. im alone.. there's nobody i can tell.. i just need to know what to do.. its so hard.. is there a chance?
Heck, this guy goes into a pout because he is crazy about you and you think this is a bad thing? Half of the world would love to have your problem! Life is NOT easy and you have to risk your emotions to get what you want. So stop looking for the easy way out. You like this guy. Obviously he liked you before and was hurt when that love wasn't returned. And obviously you guys had fun recently so the connection is still there.
So TELL HIM. The most important thing in any relationship is honesty, and trust in the other person. Show him that you can be honest even when it's hard, and that you trust him with your emotions. If he is the guy for you, he will respect that and be thrilled that you two can be finally together. But if you keep hiding and not be willing to take any action to get what you want, you usually don't get anything at all.
Believe me, if you take action, 20 years from now you won't look back and say "Jeez I was silly to tell him how I felt." If you sit there and do nothing, you WOULD be saying, "Why didn't I ever tell him how I felt??"
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com