He's a Flirt when I'm Around
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Does he like me? When were together he is always flirty and we hold hands and do all the cutesy stuff. But when I call him, I feel like i am bothering him. We had made plans to go to the mall this weekend, he never called and I found out he went without me. What is up with that? And I know when I see him again it will be the same flirty stuff like he is interested.
Why does he act one way when i am around and another when I am gone??
Actually the way he's behaving is very normal. The whole point of flirtation is to have fun with the people that are near you. It takes no effort. The person is there - you smile and laugh. The person leaves - you smile and laugh with whoever else is there. It's easy. It takes no work. It's about having fun.
To actually pay attention to schedules and track people down and arrange times takes work and effort. It involves maybe telling people you're with to go away or to let you go so you can go somewhere else. So he doesn't make the effort.
It sounds like he's a great flirt but he's not ready to be serious. So enjoy the fun times with him, but don't expect much more than that from him.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com