Looking for a Beautiful Woman
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have observed something weird about myself.I find that when it comes to women, or people in general whom seem to show me affection or interact with me in a nice friendly manner or want to chill with me,i tend to be kind of reluctant or not as motivated. sometimes i feel as if the reason that they are being nice to me, especially girls,when their open and receptive with me,is because they have little value or importance so as such they settle with me.
But i find that when it comes to women that i am attracted to,i always find myself being the aggresor or the initiator, and yet i do not yeild the results that i would like.Its always something like their never avaliable to receive my calls or too busy to go out with me.It has even gotten to the point of everytime i see a beautiful woman that i experience this inferiority complex.
I know that due to the advice you had given me on my perception on beautiful women,its all in my head,but sometimes i can not help thinking that either attractive women were not meant for me, or i should just date whom ever is easy for me to date, as if not good enough for beautiful women.
please help me to make sense of why i seem to find this observation.I know you may not know me personally, but here is some information that may help.I am 20 years old i have never had a relationship before.I have had a few good female friends, but no matter how hard i tried, i never suceded with anybody,at least not with those that i wanted.please give me some better insight so as for me to make a difference in my dormant love life.
P.S. I also masturbate everyday and can not seem to keep my mind off of women and sex.
It does sound like you're putting a bit too much emphasis on the 'beauty' part and that it's a make-or-break for you. But you say you're 20, so that's pretty normal. Studies show that high school students are *obsessed* with beauty, and that college students are only slightly less obsessed. But once people get out of college, they begin to value honesty, friendship, trust, humor, kindness and other traits far more. Beauty becomes pretty much not important, because I think people realize how fleeting it is. Someone that is 'sexy and beautiful' at 18 is a loving, caring, warm woman at 30. She may still be attractive, but really, after you've been with someone for 10 years, she will be attractive to you no matter what her looks. Because you'll see her through the eyes of LOVE and not of LUST.
I'd work more on making friends with women, and getting to know more about them. Sure, try to date the model-beautiful women if that makes you happy. But when you're ready for a real relationship, those perfect breasts are probably the last thing that really matters. Flesh sags. Love strengthens.
-- from Jenn
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