I Want to Date Her Again
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I had a crush on someone for a while but never had the courage to ask her out. A few months ago she asked me out but my friends told me that it would be social suicide to go out with her and we mutually broke up partly because I wasn't spending enough time with her.
Recently I've realized that I really do want to go out with her but it would be really weird to ask her out at this point, is there any way to do this or are we through forever?
Wow, it's time to find new friends!! How come they care so much about your "social standing" - are they saying they wouldn't be your friend any more if you "went down the ladder"?? Not very nice friends at all.
Believe me, while some people get obsessed about social position in high school it does NOT MATTER at all once you get out of high school. Your college friends could not care less who your friends were in high school. You probably will only stay in touch with 1 or 2 friends from high school once you get out. So to worry a lot about exactly who is and isn't your friend in high school is putting the emphasis completely in the wrong place. If you have a girl that is special to you, THAT is the sort of thing that lasts through time.
So if you care about her again, tell her that. And start spending time with her. Everybody grows and changes over time. Show her that you are a more mature person, that you are willing to put in the time and energy that a relationship requires. I imagine she'll be happy to hear that!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com