I Harassed Her, She Cooled Off

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
how can i get her trust back? she's acting to cold to me, which she was not doing before...

she said she got tired of me being annoying, admittedly i am. i call her 24/7, i always want to be with her. why am i so into her? all i know is that i love her so much...

i want to bring back the sweetness that she had for me...the love, she seemed pissed off whenever i call her up. but all i wanna do is just to be with her. i even try to sacrifice my time just so i can squeeze in time for her. i always miss her. she said that she's being stranggled by me doing this.

Is loving her this much wrong? i know i mustnt expect much because we arnt officially a couple. but i am doing my best to win her heart, her trust because i love this girl so badly. please help me out. i want to bring back what we had.

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It sounds like you are obsessed with her, not that you love her. When you love someone you want them to be happy and have a full life. That involves some time with you, some time with friends, some time with family and some time alone. Instead you were trying to monopolize her and treat her as your own personal plaything that had to be turned on for you and ready for you 24 hours a day.

You need to start backing off and looking at what is good for HER. If you really love her, you should support her and her interests and desires. So instead of demanding that she be with you, find other things for YOU to do in your spare time that don't involve her. She wants a well rounded, healthy person in her life. She doesn't want someone who wants to invade her entire being. The more fun things you enjoy doing on your own time, the more she will love hearing about them when she is with you. The more fun you are to be with, the more she'll enjoy her time with you. And then when you're with her, instead of just staring at her, take her out to do things she enjoys, whether it's horseback riding or going to the local museum or helping out at a charity cookie bake. That will show her that you REALLY love her.

-- from Jenn
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