Great Friends and Now I'm Shy

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
well. there is this girl i really like. and i know her for about 5 years. we'r really good friends and well she know a lot about me and me about her(we've went on a lot of dates as friends and also with more friends). she also know that i like her. because i allways did. but that's just the awkward thing i now can't go near her because. i dont know what to say.

and also because my mind get's full of thought like (she know's that u like her. so she'l run away).

what do i do know? Advice
Remember that it's all in your mind! You guys were / are great friends. You can talk a ton and know each other well. The ONLY real change now is that you want to be more serious and are therefore changing the way you think about her. But YOU haven't changed and SHE hasn't changed and your friendship still exists. And having a great friendship is the best way to then become great boy/girlfriends so you're already on the right path!

You liked her before. You like her now. You just like her more. So spend more time with her :) Don't think of her as a "girlfriend" if that makes you nervous. Keep thinking of her as a good friend. Keep talking to her, go out and do things with her. The more you talk, the easier it gets, the more you're together, the closer you get. And you'll find that the slide from hugging goodbye and going to movies to 'dating' is really an easy once, if you keep at it :)

-- from Jenn
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