The Art of Flirting
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I am confused. recently I met a guy at the bowling center my children and I attend, I am unsure as to where I stand with this guy, He has touched the palm of my hand when giving me my change, He remembers little bits of conversations I had with him, he raises his eyebrows at lot when talking to me, he always makes eye contact when talking to me.
One day (his day off) my ex, my children all arrived together he called out to me in the car park and said he found a pair of shoes similar to the ones I had showed interest in for my son, he said I have to go for a minute or so but I will be back and then we can have a look, when he got back my ex and I followed him into the pro shop some how we managed to touch shoulders he did not make any attempt to move away.
However if I need to go to the counter and there are other people being served he will make me wait until last (even if I wasn't last and then he often leaves me standing at the counter and says I'll be back so I am left there standing and waiting waiting waiting. I got into the habit of tying the laces on the odd pair of shoes left on the counter while I was waiting, now there is always a heap of shoes to be tied, my friend says he does that to keep me at the counter longer, what do you think.
When I was in there the other day (by myself) he said he had to redrill some house balls and implied that he wanted my hand span to do it, He hasn't mentioned it again.
When I said goodbye he was sitting at a table with a co worker he waited until I had walked off to ask me how I went so I placed myself in a seat at the table and told him, when I included his mate in the conversation he seemed to lose interest so again I said my goodbyes both the co worker and I left the table then He again waited until I took a few steps aways and called out to me ever so softly (I wasn't sure he was talking to me until I turned around) he said something but I couldn't hear so had to go closer he repeated it but I stll had to go closer to hear him, what he said was You'll be in again on Friday, I replied no this afternoon with my little ones (he organizes their league) oh yeh thats right was his reply.
Yet he has a female co worker who I think he may be interested in (she is in him no doubt about it). He was talking to her her yesterday with his hand stretched out in front of him leaning on the register and his other hand on his hip yet he didn't get really close. So is he flirting with me and her or is my friend correct in thinking I am his interest. My other friend says he is flirting to be be friends. is there such a thing.
Flirting is all about being friendly to people, period! There are thousands of reasons that people flirt. Some people just flirt with everybody! Some people flirt only occasionally. It definitely sounds like he enjoys flirting and does so with you, with his coworker and undoubtedly with other women as well.
As to his INTENTIONS, only he knows that. You already know he likes to flirt with you. So flirt back, if you're interested! The only way you'll know if he would be interested in a closer relationship is to start to get closer and see how he reacts. Lots of times guys will flirt with a bunch of women and see which appreciate the attention. Then they "whittle down" the field and so on. Many guys simply like having women friends! It's completely normal for a guy to have female friends to flirt with and talk to and visa versa.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com