My Sister Keeps him Away
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Ive been in a "situation" with a guy a couple of years older than me, for ages now. We have got together twice,after the first time, my sister (in his year)was very annoyed, and told him 2 stay away from me, as she doesnt trust him, so he ended it, but then we got together again, cos we were like a magnet to eachother, and we belong together, and surely there is no point denying your feelings right? so anyway, last sat we got together again, and it was so perfect, we both knew it felt right.
HOWEVER, ! there is still the complications of my sister, and he hates it that she disapproves. So basically now, its all horrid again, and we stare at eachother all the time, but he has told my friend, that everytime she mentions my name to him, it complicates things! Apparently he sort of likes this other girl aswell a bit, but she is a major slut!
Is he trying to smoulder his feelings for me, to convince himself he doesnt care for me at all, because he has convinced himself we cant b together, so he is trying to make himself feel better by trying to block me out of his mind, OR is there nothing i can do, because maybe he just isnt interested??Im so confused, i just hoped you might be able to give me some advice about what to do, and what he is thinking? People have been saying that he must have feelings for me, otherwise we wouldnt of gotten together a second time, and we would of been able to resist eachother, but what do u think?
There comes a point in your life where you do what you want to do and stop worrying about what other people think. Either he takes a stand and does what he wants or he ruins his life continually worrying about what your sister thinks or the neighbor thinks or the person down the hall thinks. Life is too short to destroy your own life because you are worried someone else might get upset.
Talk to him and spend time with him. Either he likes you and he'll enjoy that time with you, or his obsession with your sister's feelings will be too much for him to overcome and he'll avoid you. I really have to say at this point, with all the times you've written in, that this guy either has to take action or you have to move on with your life. He is not worth this kind of obsession if he can't make the simple decision to be with you even though it's not the "easy course".
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com