The Lie Detector Test
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello, how can i know what my fiance is doing while i'm far from her & what are the questions that i can ask to make sure that she's telling the truth...? Many thanks.
I think you missed my many tips that all say TRUST IS KEY IN A RELATIONSHIP!! If you have to resort to tricks, traps and lie detector tests, then the relationship isn't healthy. Period. What happens when you guys are married and you have to go to work every day and she's not there with you? Are you going to install video cameras everywhere she is, a GPS in her abdomen to know where she goes and a lie detector test to be administered nightly?
A relationship is about honesty and trust. Either you trust each other, communicate well and believe in each other, or you don't. If you truly can't trust your partner, then break up and find someone you can. If the problem is that you're very insecure and even though your partner has done nothing wrong you just ALWAYS BELIEVE that your partner MUST want someone other than you, then go to a therapist and get it resolved. Because, believe me, if you start obsessing about the things your partner COULD do, the relationship will be destroyed. Either you will destroy it with your fears or you will drive your partner crazy and she will leave.
So it's time to stop obsessing about "proving your partner is true" and start actually *trusting your partner is true*. Because in a real, long term relationship that spans decades, there is NEVER any way to prove fidelity. But those who BELIEVE in each other are the ones who stay together and are happy.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com