We Became Best Friends - Then he Left
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
my boyfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, right after homecoming dance. we had been dating for 16 months. we started going out when i was a freshman and he was a senior and he goes to college 3 hours away. we were fine last year but for some reason he broke up with me this year. he said that he feels like we are friends more than boyfriend and girlfriend. but the weird thing is that he gave me a heart necklace and a bracelet that said my name on the front and on the back it said "always and forever" and he gave that to me right after he broke up with me. he spent the night that night and i talked to him that night but then i told him that maybe he needed time to think so i told him to call me when he was ready.
he called my about 3 days later and then we talked normally. he then asked me to come out to his college that next weekend so i did and i spent two nights there and it was so much fun. we still acted like we were dating but whenever we talked about it he made it clear that we are friends. a week after i came back i started to get mad bc i saw all these happy couples so i told him i wanted to not talk to him for a little while bc i figured that if i keep talkin to him then i will never get over him.
i ended up calling him about 4 days later and he was so relieved to hear from me. he said if i didnt call within the next couple days he was gonna come home. i have no idea what is goin on? i really want him back? i want to figure something clever to do for him and ask him out and if he says no then i will move on but i dont know what to do.
Wow, when most people dream about becoming best friends and lasting decades, your boyfriend split because you were ONLY friends?? Friends is the best thing you COULD be! Here are the normal stages of a relationship -
If he is going to chase the passion, he is never going to be happy. He'll keep bar-hopping and chasing the latest teeny-bopper. But if he wants a real relationship that will last, he needs to concentrate on what is important.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com