Dating an Almost Divorced Guy

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
There's a very special man I've been dating for about 2 yrs now. He is in the process of a divorce after 20 yrs. He's wonderful to me and my children however, recently he just got in contact with an old flame from high school. I saw an e-mail the other day that said she was interested in a romantic relationship with him. When I confronted him, he said they are just friends.

I am very jealous and feel that it is ruining our relationship. He also won't tell his family about me until after the divorce is final. I'm sad please help. Advice
There's a stage of a relationship called REBOUND and your guy is right in the middle of it. You should NEVER ever date a person in rebound for this very reason. he was trapped with someone else for 20 years. Just as he was finally getting free and able to flirt and date and think about other people, he hooked up with you, when he wasn't even REALLY free yet. So now other women are in his life and he's thinking that there is all of this world out there that he's been missing ...

Definitely he can't tell others about you while he is STILL LEGALLY MARRIED. He is legally cheating on his wife right now. That is very serious to many people.

I would really take a step back and be patient while he actually GETS divorced. If it was meant to be, it will work out, there's no need to rush these next few weeks or months. If you push him while he's barely rebounding from his last relationship, it's not going to work. You want to date him because he WANTS to date you and makes that choice freely - not because you were his "escape from his marriage" and once the marriage is done, so are you.

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