Life is Long, Don't Rush
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have been friends with this guy for over six years. In the past last year we have grown to be more than just friends. We are so good for each other and so compatible. The problem is that he states he always wants me to be a part of his life no matter what because he has in such a sacred place in in life. He states that he does not want to rush in to anything but would like things to fall into place. In got his heart broken by his ex and I think he is not over her. As well I think he is afraid of getting hurt and is very negative about things.
I need some HELP on what to do. I try to keep my feelings towards him at a minimum. I'm at the point that I think is this guy stupid or what. Why let a good thing pass you by.
Remember, people live to age 80 or longer. Some people live to be 100 or 120. There's no rush! If you guys were meant to be, it will work out. You've only just been making that conversion from friend to boyfriend-girlfriend in the last months. There's no reason to go leaping into things. If you take it slow, it will build something that stands the test of time. Just what are you hoping to "change"? I know people who have been together as best friends and partners for 25 or more years who aren't married who are completely happy. There's no need to rush into anything unless you are desperate for children and are about to turn 40 ...
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com