My Boyfriend is Insanely Jealous
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I need help, please help me! I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. We have past through mostly everything, some good and some bad. I love him so much but he has become too possessive and too jealous over the time. He blames me for what I wear, even if I am wearing some jeans that fit and a pretty shirt, I know what to wear, I do not wear mini skirts, or things that show skin.
He wants to control what I wear, several times I have tried to please him but every time I do it one time then he ask for more and more until he has me wearing t-shirts and loose jeans. I do it to please him but that is not me. We do not go out alone, I mean like me and my friends and him with his friend. We both go to college together he takes me to class and he does not leave until he see me sit with a girl, and if their boy sitting in my table he gets really mad. He thinks bad about every body, he does not even want me to shake his uncle’s hand, which is like his older brother.
He says that he is like that because of his dad, when he was little his dad had another lady with kids while we was married with his mom, he drinks, goes to dances, and so on. He has seen his mom suffer and cried. The good thing is that finally he admits he needs help. I love him because he is really sweet, loving, nice, and does what ever he can to help me. But what can I do to help him.
Your boyfriend definitely needs help. Help him find a therapist and offer to go with him. Either he gets this under control now or he will literally destroy your relationship, because after a while no human being can take that kind of controlling. He is treating you like his slave and not like a person. He is not respecting you and not trusting you. Either he learns to trust you or this is NOT going to work, because trust is the foundation of every relationship.
-- from Jenn
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