I love her - Now What do I Say?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
theres this girl that i fell in love with 2 months ago. after a day or too i decided to ask my friends what to say. they told me to just to go to ask her. one of my friends told her that i liked her behind my back and she has been smiling and staring at me ever since. Friends of hers hate me and she is trying to avoid me. when i get close to her i get nervous and i think she does to. im not exactly sure how to tell her. i cant stop thinking about her and im always trying but i dont know what to say. so what do say?
Well first, remember what you're infatuated with her :) Love involves two people really knowing each other and talking openly and honestly. It doesn't really sound like you're there yet :) So don't go walking up to her and say "I haven't even talked to you yet, but I claim to know you inside and out and to know that I love what you really are!" That's sort of saying to her that she is SO shallow that her entire emotional depth can be read from across the room. Nobody likes to feel like they're that 'plain'.
So your aim should be to be able to spend those weeks and weeks with her, to really get to know her, and to understand her inside and out so that you CAN really love all that she has to offer. And that starts with just talking to her. So instead of thinking of her as a princess on a pedestal, think of her as a good friend that you really want to get to know better. Which hopefully she is. What are her hobbies? Learn more about one of them and then go over and talk to her about it. When you both have a topic you know something about and enjoy talking about, that gives you a conversation that can easily last for hours!
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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